thay prayer handsThroughout my days, I can recall distinct moments in which I wish I would have been bold enough to say exactly what was on my mind or dared to use a better set of words toward those I love.

As the sun rises in the East, I often find myself reflecting on those moments and silently vowing I will never make the same mistakes. Thankfully, with a new day comes the power to wake anew and set specific intentions to act with authenticity and love.

I recently listened to a conversation that Oprah had with Vietnamese monk Thich Nhat Hanh (also known as Thay or teacher by his students). Their discussion equipped me with a set of Mantras that I want to apply to my daily interactions with others.

I hope they will be valuable to you as well:

1. “Darling, I’m here for you.”

Use these words to reveal that your loved one has your full support. He or she will be filled with a new sense of strength and belonging.

2. “Darling, I know you are there, and I’m so happy because you are truly there.”

The simple acknowledgement that a loved one exists and provides meaning to your life is utterly priceless. Don’t get caught in the fable that you have forever, be here and now — acknowledging the beauty of your person’s presence.

3. Darling, I know you suffer, that is why I’m here for you.”

When a loved one suffers, there is no need to come up with a solution or blast them with your opinions. Simply listen and offer your heart.

4. “Darling, I suffer and I’m trying my best to practice. Please help me.”

Rather than hiding your pain and fears away, ask for support.  If your loved one has disappointed you and your natural reaction is to lash out or crawl into your shell, be humble enough to ask for help.

“You must go to him or her and practice this,” says Thay. “You will suffer less right away.”

– Jen Engevik

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